I’m at a point in my life where I do not want to waste any time with what displeases or hurts me. I will not argue; I’m happy for the perpetrator to win. I have no patience for cynicism, criticism and demands; this has had consequences for me and is very damaging to say the least. I try not to spend longer than a minute on those who lie or want to manipulate and I do not to co-exist with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty or cheap praise. I will not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance; this gets on my wick. We are all knowledgable in our own field. I have no will for maliciousness and I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe it is difficult not to make judgements in life but to be judgemental about a person in a derogatory fashion irritates me no end. I understand we live in a world of opposites but I always try to avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. It’s unlikely that I will get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals.
Jan Diaz Penfold Pgdip – Counsellor